Passport Bros, Sexpats and Sex tourists, Oh my

Over the past 8 years here, I have seen a stark change in the city of Medellin. The first time I visited Medellin was the first week that the Netflix show Narcos was released. Since it was so widely seen, and featured the criminal exploits of Pablo Escobar, my friends and family were obviously concerned I was going to Colombia. This was my first trip to South America, and when I got here I didn’t know what to expect. I absolutely fell in love with the city. It was beautiful, the people were amazing, the vibe was unmatched and I could tell this city was just about to blossom into something beautiful.

I made the decision to move here and in December of 2015 I pulled the trigger. I uprooted my life to be a part of what this city was about to become. I spoke little Spanish, I had friends and a crush here who I wanted to get to know better, and a sense of new hope. Little did I know what was about to happen here, and that was part of the draw.

When I got here, the terms “Passport Bro”, “Sexpat” and “Sex Tourist” were not a part of my vocabulary. I think most are newer terms, but even the concepts were completely foreign to me. There has always been the theme of a “Mail Order Bride” and someone who marries for papers, but that wasn’t in my line of sight, so I didn’t think about it. When I got here, I was quickly introduced to the later 2, “Sexpats” and “Sex Tourists”, and so many of them, to be honest.

However, I made friends with many sexpats. One of the men I hung out with was from Michigan messaged me and said let’s go to see his buddy who always has interesting girls with him. His name is now infamous in the city, Medellin Jake. Jake is my son’s name, so he can’t be that bad, right? I was almost catastrophically wrong there. I went to his place just off Parque Lleras, and the vibe was way off. There were girls everywhere, and I quickly realized the grim reality. Since I worked in the webcam industry, I was comfortable in a sexually charged environment, but this was WAY different. If you know the story of Medellin Jake you know why. I made an excuse, and quickly left. I came to be an observer in the world of extreme sexpats and punted.

So let’s talk about the difference between these groups. In future YouTube videos, I’ll get deeper into the subject, but I want to have a foundation so we are all using the same lingo.

Sex Tourists

I’ll start with who I consider the most inflammatory of the three. A sex tourist is someone who is visiting Medellin for less than a week, is typically coming with a group of friends, and coming with the intention of having as much sex as they can for the time they’re here. These are bachelor/stag parties, “Guys trips” or sometimes even the solo guy coming here to just get laid. Coming here to drink, do all the cocaine, even that pink cocaine. Fair warning, cocaine is WAY stronger here, and that pink cocaine is called "Tussi" or 2CB and when mixed with alcohol, it causes suicidal thoughts if you aren't used to it. One direction fans have this to thank for the recent death of one of it's members this year.

In their minds, they know their trip here is for sex, partying and drugs, even though they’ll disguise it as visiting for the weather, food and culture amongst other excuses. These men are the ones that are the easiest targets for getting drugged and robbed. Their overzealous desire for sex along with their ego and extreme entitlement lead them into paths of danger, and turning off any semblance of street smarts they have. They will go on Tinder, and set their ages at 18-22 because they deserve that. They think that they are going to come here and be hunters, and make these girls fall in love because he’s god’s gift to Medellin. Despite in most cases not speaking much Spanish at all, having no cultural awareness and sticking out like a sore thumb.

What these guys don’t realize is that they are the HUNTED here. From the time they get off the plane, they have eyes on them. The flashier they dress and act, the more likely they are to become a victim. And if you come here thinking it won’t happen to you, it is so much more likely than you think, it’s not even funny. Men who think like this are the ones who are “falling off balconies” and getting drugged and robbed at record rates here. All I can say is that if you are coming here and don’t speak Spanish well, don’t understand the culture, scams and norms AND you’re not street smart at home, you’re gonna be seen as a lick here.

Sexpats

This is a bastardization of the term “Ex-Pats” which is someone who moves from the US/Canada/Europe/Australia to a lesser developed country seeking a new life. If it’s the opposite direction, we typically call them immigrants, but hey, different rules and all. This is someone who goes to a country like Colombia and stays for a longer term, but has the focus on having sex with as many girls as possible. They typically comb dating apps, go to bars, and try to pick up women in public. They tend to be more respectful and careful than the sex tourists.

It’s not foolproof, I know several men who are self professed sexpats and have been drugged and robbed several times. It doesn’t deter them from dating here though. Until they reach their ultimate limit and they return home or go onto another place for a change of vibe and scenery. Lately those men have moved on to Brasil and Argentina.

Passport Bros

The last is the Passport Bros. This was a movement born in the recovery from the COVID pandemic, and gained steam since. I won’t get into the history too deep, but it was a leaderless movement born by “Red Pill” content creators rejecting a system that rejects them. I was told by a prominent YouTube creator team who wishes to remain anonymous that they are no longer interested because they feel like the women no longer want traditional relationships. Their followers feel like the women they desire have been ruined by OnlyFans and other social media platforms that glorify what they call “Soft Prostitution”, and now women have delusional requirements of a man has to be 6’ tall, make six-figures, have 6” ‘down there’ and a six pack or they are not worthy of love, unless they pay for it.

This resulted in some men just ejecting from dating western women, and going to lesser developed countries to find a woman with traditional values. This has led many men to come to Colombia and the Philippines in search of what they call a “Trad-wife”.

It’s no coincidence that men are targeting these 2 locations, who has consistently been in the top 3 for Miss Universe for as long as they’ve had the pageant? I’ll do a whole video, hell, videos on this mentality, so we can deep dive into this one, so we can keep this simple. But, for whatever reason all three classifications have been called “Passport Bros”

Fallout

I think it’s unfair to call all of these three “Passport Bros”, especially since they are, at least in my opinion the least of the three groups in terms of nefariousness. In the end they are just men who are lonely, and want love. If you live online, it’s not hard to find a woman who will not only tell you what being a real man is, but also say they don’t care about your loneliness unless you can benefit them. They in the end just want to have love. The others definitely have progressively darker intentions, and do much more damage on the societies they visit.

The problem is that all three men in this group are delusional. Sex tourists are delusional thinking because of the country on their passport, they’re better than the women here, and they’d be lucky to serve the sexual needs of a western man. Sexpats, often don’t want to admit that’s what they are here for. Be honest with at least yourselves, keep telling the world culture, climate and cuisine, but he honest with yourself. It can mean the difference between life and death in Medellin. Finally, Passport Bros, SO MANY self professed Passport Bros are just calling themselves that, but exhibit the behavior of the other 2 categories. Your main delusion is that you’re coming to find a “Trad-wife” in Medellin, but in reality you just want to hook up with baddies. Medellin is the most westernized city in South America. Yeah, I said it. If you suck with the women back home, you’re going to get bull rushed here.

You want the unfiltered truth? That’s what you’re here for - Those baddies you’re in love with, maybe even think is your girlfriend, fiance, hell maybe your wife, chances are they are running game on you, and probably other guys too. Wait till I tell you guys about “The spreadsheet”.

I’m not saying all tourists coming here are sexual deviants, I’m side-eyeing the city leadership while saying this. But we have to be honest that it is a draw. I’m also not saying that all Paisa women are money hungry manipulators. But we have to be honest, there are many. I want to believe that there are more men coming here looking for lasting love, and more women looking for a stable relationship than the opposite. I know there are plenty using the guise of traditional values to get sex as men or financial support as women, but let’s focus on the positive. Let’s be honest and not believe in the pretty delusions. Be who you are, at least in your mind.

Everyone please stay safe out there, if you’re coming here for sex, there is an astronomical spike in new HIV and Hepatits-A cases in Medellin this year (https://medellin.co/blog/tourism/hepatitis-a-outbreak-in-medellin-a-growing-public-health-concern/). Going into vacation mode here is dangerous, and what happens in Medellin rarely stays here. Until next time.